We are mulling moving our wedding back two weekends. Because as I sat in a meeting today listening to my boss say [more or less with some of my own added dramatic effect] “between January and November don’t plan on doing anything but eating, breathing, and sleeping the campaign, including taking leave,” I realized: “Huh. Guess she’d prefer I not leave for a week and a half the last week of October.”
But I really don’t mind. In fact, one of the main reasons I decided to leave newspapers was to be able to campaign for candidates I support. After the 2000 presidential election I vowed I would never again have my hands tied. So now I’m working in a place where I can actually take an active role in trying to get the next president elected and I’m going to try to balance that with the wedding. (This should in no way imply that I’m some high-powered political operative. I’m going to be knocking on doors, running from released hounds, and phone banking with the rest of the idealistic schlubs. I mean “young progressives.”)
Here are our options:
1. Move the wedding two weeks back.
Pros—Doesn’t interfere with election.
Cons—I’ll still have last-minute wedding stuff with which to deal. But I don’t see why I can’t cell phone canvas during a gown fitting, right? Another con: if the weather returns to normal next year it will likely be after the leaves change, and we’re trying to sync our weekend with that seasonal occurrence. (Although in light of the cancellation of fall, I’m not sure that matters anymore anyway.)
2. Keep the wedding on the same day and delay the honeymoon until after the election.
Pros—Same as Scenario 1.
Cons—We’d be the couple who delayed our honeymoon for a presidential election. Can we be that couple? I’m not sure yet. Because I think that would make us official D.C. fuckwits.
3. Keep everything the same.
Pros—No interruption in original plans.
Cons—I’m gone for a week and a half that will probably be the busiest of the campaign season and I really want to be a part of that.
In all likelihood, it’s probably going to end up being the second scenario. Please begin to wrap your mind around the idea that we’re fuckwits.